This title is a recipient of the prestigious gold Mom’s Choice Award. Parents and educators look for the Mom’s Choice Awards seal in selecting quality materials and products for children and families.

Imagine if you could decide how to feel. You can.Imagine if deciding to feel good was as easy as 1-2-3.This story teaches children that it is just that easy to choose to be happy.


3 Steps to Happy is an incredible book for any parent that is looking to teach their child health behavioral patterns.”
—Dr. Isaac H. Jones , Pediatric Health Expert, International Speaker and Owner of Designer Health Centers

3 Steps to Happy is a beautiful guide to life no matter what your age. You get to decide how you choose to feel. Love the “keep it simple” principle in this book I am excited to share this sweet message with all those I know and love.”
—Loren Slocum , mother, author of The Greatest Love and Life Tuneups, speaker and lifestyle coach

“I love this book. It’s a must read for little children and very educational for parents also.”
—Cloe Madanes, President, Robbins-Madanes Training.

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In adult language: if you want to change your state, just change your physiology and change your focus.
In preschool language: stop (see you are feeling bad), snap (decide you want to feel good) then smile.

What made you choose this topic?
It’s a concept that combines teachings from Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer, and it’s the concept I’ve most focused on with my children. It can be the most life changing. Negative emotions aren’t bad if we use them but if we linger there unnecessarily what good does that do us. It’s power to know when I decide — or you decide — changing the negative feeling to good can be done in that moment of decision. If I only managed to get one book published this was the one I wanted to write.

If you could only do one thing to change your state what would it be?
Smile, it changes your physiology in an instant.

Does it mean you can never feel “negative” emotions like sad or fear or anger?
In no way am I saying you’re not allowed to feel negative emotions. All emotions have a purpose. They are meant to be felt. Emotions are your body giving you a message, like feeling fear in prehistoric time was a body’s way to keep a person alert of what was happening around him. The point is after you feel it do you let yourself get “stuck” in it or take responsibility and choose how you want to feel. Like the other day I was feeling sad about a loss I experienced but I didn’t want to influence my kids so I changed my state until I had some time alone. Then I watched a sad movie to get me back to a sad state to allow my body to feel it and release it. I always tell my kids they can feel it, let out the anger or the sad, but when they are ready only they can decide to feel good.

Is your book based on your own life in any way?
Yes. It is almost nonfiction because it is based on actual conversations I have with my children and that they have with each other.

How is your book different than others out in the market?
A lot of books I’ve read about emotions teaches children about different emotions which is wonderful that children learn what the feelings are. I haven’t come across any books that teaches them in plain language how to very simply choose how they feel.

Realizing you have a choice in your emotional state is just the beginning. Once you are able to practice changing your state at will, you also can realize you are in fact in charge of your life. Life no longer just happens to you. You can begin to live at cause. You can begin to choose how you experience life and take actions toward your goals.


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